Is it acceptable to ask for cash in lieu of wedding gifts?

Sep 30, 2019 Wedding Etiquette

Cash in lieu of wedding gifts?

The short answer to cash in lieu of wedding Gifts is: NO!

Even though it has become more and more common for engaged couples to request money or gift vouchers instead of gifts, it is not accepted wedding etiquette practice, and can come across as a bit tacky. While it’s true that nobody wants to receive twenty ice crushers or yet another vase which is destined to collect dust in a dark corner of the garage, the subject of money should not be broached on the invitation. The only way to get around this sticky subject is to discuss your wishes with whoever has been assigned the task of organizing the bridal shower (in most cases, this will be the Maid of Honor). When guests call her to RSVP to the wedding or shower, she can tell them that you would appreciate a monetary gift instead of a gift – but only if they ask. The other alternative would be to suggest gift vouchers.

Close family and friends will probably ask you directly if you would prefer money, anyway, and Aunt Madge will probably give you a gaudy ceramic Lazy Susan even if you did specify money. Don’t forget to extend your sincerest gratitude in your thank-you notes, no matter what you receive from your guests… there is no substitute for class!

Though some guests may love your approach and may be more than willing to fund your new beginnings some guests may remain wary of handing over cold hard cash.

Uncomfortable doesn’t have to mean stressful, so remember the best way to ask your guests is to just be honest, it is up to them to get you two a gift or to hand you cash. Either way I’m sure you’d greatly appreciate both, or at least you should.

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